Are You Living in Fantasy?

I was searching for a definition of this word and this one really catch my attention. Meaning of “Fantasy”: the power or process of creating especially unrealistic or improbable mental images in response to psychological need.

Fantasy allows people to escape from reality and live in a world where it is so satisfying. Even when we know it is impossible or morally wrong, we delight in entertaining those thoughts because it brings comfort and warmth to our soul. It exposes wounds in the soul that needs to be dealt with.

Growing up in a foster family, things were tough. My foster parents were old and uneducated and finances were limited. My foster mother often vent her anger and frustration on us when we were young. I was throw out of the house a few times because I was a naughty child. I was constantly reminded that I do not belong to that family and even the little I have will be taken away from me. I grew up with rejection, shame and abandonment. My biological parents have told me countless times that they don’t want me too. There was no place I can go to. No place where I truly belong.

I was an unbeliever. My only source of comfort was my imagination. So I fantasised about having a perfect family with a beautiful house, nice car, young and good looking parents and everyone wants to be my friends. I was in pain and fantasy is the only place I can find love, acceptance and sufficiency. It allows me to escape into a place where there is no pain.

I was often seen daydreaming, talking and smiling to myself. By the time I was in my 20s, the root of rejection caused me to be socially awkward. Because instead of actually talk to people, I imagined having wonderful conservations with them. In reality, I was stern and unfriendly. I feared talking to people because I believed I will be rejected if they know who I am. Others cannot connect with me and I was often labelled as weird and aloof. That drove me deeper into my fantasy world. I was so deep in fantasy that it affected every area of my life. I struggled to focus on work and building real relationships.


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Today, I am so thankful to God for the gift of salvation. I am eternally grateful for the bible. God has showed me a better way. God has showed me the truth. I went through massive deliverance. God delivered and healed me from deep seated rejection and abandonment.

Life is not perfect. There is a price for everything. Jesus paid the price too. Jesus was perfect but He lived in a imperfect world for 33 years. He was hated and accused when He did no wrong. He was rejected by His own brothers and abandoned by His disciples. In the end, He gave up His life for us (people who curse Him and want Him dead).

The truth about fantasy:


Fantasy is addictive and it feeds the flesh. It is not of God. They are often fuelled by sinful desires within us. The more we allow those thoughts to run in our mind, the harder it is to say “no”. It is a invisible force that pushes us to act it out. A person given to fantasy opens a lot of doors for the devil’s suggestions. A person addicted to fantasy cannot serve God.

  • Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies will have their fill of poverty. ~Proverbs 29:19
  • We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. ~2 Corinthians 10:5

Who is your master? God or this make- believe world? There is no profit in fantasy and it is a stronghold that needs to be broken.

Fantasy makes us passive. Faith is not passive. Instead of exploring ideas, being creative and taking the necessary actions towards a task, a person is distracted and often “lost”. They accomplished nothing. A person who loves fantasy is seldom productive.


  • A man is attracted to a girl at work. Instead of talking to her, he mentally engaged in a relationship with her. He did not get to build a friendship with her or even care about her flaws.
  • A housewife who ignore her responsibility at home and was addicted to novels or drama series. Her family live in a house full of clutter.
  • A husband who is a slave to pornographic images finds it difficult to appreciate the beauty of a real woman. He cannot be satisfied by his own wife as he has given himself to women that are not even real.
  • A woman in a relationship with a psychopath believing that one day he will change. If she were to leave him now, the next woman will be so happy with him and she will miss out.

“The soul of a lazy man desires, and has nothing; But the soul of the diligent shall be made rich.” ~Proverbs‬ ‭13:4‬ ‭

Fantasy promotes laziness and gives us the illusion that we are living the life we want. Instead of facing reality and learn to deal with issues of life, fantasy paralyses us. We set ourselves up for failure by setting expectations that cannot be met by anyone. It ruins marriages, relationships, destiny and it destroys people.

When we live in fantasy, we stop living.

Fairies don’t exist.

How do we free ourselves from fantasy? Through Jesus Christ! Because of His finished work on the cross, sin has lost its power over you. Declare this truth! Fantasy has no right in your life. It can not steal from us anymore.

Romans 6:14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.

If you make that decision to live for God, forsake fantasy. Bind that unclean spirit and mind controlling spirit. Command it out of your life. Fight that temptation. I know it is not easy. We are weak but only through Christ can we draw the strength and grace to overcome. Ask Him to help you. He will show you what you need to do.

I sought God with all my heart, all my soul and all my strength. I cannot afford to let the devil control me. I want to be led by God. I want God’s ideas and creativity to flow through me.

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O LORD ~Psalm 19:14

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all yourstrength and with all your mind ~ Luke 10:27

I pray for us that our words and thoughts may be pleasing to The Lord. I pray that instead living in a false reality, we will read His word and live in His truth. Let His word be the standard of our life. Instead of embracing false comfort, let His Presence comforts us in our trials. Our Heavenly Father is the Father of all comforts. When you gain victory over this area of your life, I believe God is able do amazing things through you!

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